Tedious. The guy is tedious. He doesn’t even know it. He thinks he’s hilarious. He thinks this is his big moment. He probably thinks this moment on stage is the big break he’s been working toward for years. He probably thinks this moment is nothing more than a stepping stone to bigger and brighter things in life. Someone probably told him he was funny. Was it his Aunt Clara, or his dad? Who told this guy he was so funny that he should try to make a career out of it? I’m not funny, so I’m probably not the best critic, but I know what I think is funny and this ain’t it. I know the plight of the unfunny, but this guy? The idea that this guy has a bright, gleaming smile on his face makes it obvious that he thinks this is his moment in the Sun. He thinks he’s doing it. He thinks this might be the best day of his life. “Except for the birth of my children,” he might add, “and the day I bought Herschel the Turtle at a pet store, and the day I met my wife.” He’d probably qualify that best-day-of-my-life assessment, so no one calls him out on it, but he’d probably say it was top-5 … if someone stopped him right there in the first quarter of his standup routine.
How many people can do this? I wonder, trying to drum up some respect for this guy. What percentage of the population can stand up on a stage and try to make complete strangers laugh? I respect anyone who can do what I never could. He told us he traveled twelve hours to be here tonight. He traveled half-a-day to try to make a roomful of strangers laugh. That’s a level of commitment that most people don’t have. It’s one thing to try to make a table of four laugh, but a comedy club requires its patrons to pay a two-drink minimum to enter. How many people could stand up to try to make a roomful of demanding, paying customers laugh? I mentally applaud this guy for doing what he’s doing, but I can’t get past the fact that he’s just not funny.
The audience is receptive. They’re laughing at everything he says. Why are they laughing? My bet is they’re aching for comedy. It’s why they’re here. Most of them bought their tickets a week in advance. They bought them for the headliner, but they’re more than willing to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, if he’s halfway decent. What if he did something edgy? What if his act involved nothing more than eating a bowl of Count Chokula? What if he performed a dramatic reading of Dr. Seuss’ ABC book or The Great Gatsby? Would they still be laughing? He has a certain position of authority on humor, because he’s up there, and we’re not. We assume he’s played a number of cities before ours. We assume that he’s up there, because other people more knowledgeable than us put him up there, and he’s been thoroughly vetted. He’s doing something none of us could do sober, so we defer to his experience. Is that why they’re laughing, because I find this guy typical and tedious.
I was so immersed in these thoughts that I missed the audience turn. The laughter went from a throng to sparse laughter. What are you laughing at? I thought to those few still laughing, this guy’s not funny. While I searched for the laughers, I failed to notice that they were some of the few who were still laughing, until they stopped too.
The standup comedian was baking under an uncomfortably bright spotlight when that silence took hold. The silence was deafening and a little claustrophobic. Prior to the turn, he informed us that he traveled half a day for the chance to make us laugh, and he added some typical, tedious notes to that, and everyone laughed. In the now deafening silence, I thought about that twelve-hour drive, and how it must’ve been filled with such excitement. I figured he was probably barely able to contain his excitement. He thought his appearance in our small city would kickstart his dream of being a standup comedian. I wonder if that trip involved any concerns about about how quickly the best day in your life can turn into your worst. Twelve hours is a long time to spend in a car, alone, with nothing but your thoughts, your excitement and your worst fears.
He resembles Weird Al without the looks. I see myself in this man. I see his observations. I know where they’re headed, but they don’t quite get there. There’s something wrong with his delivery, and his material. Members of the audience are now cringing at one another. I laugh. For the first time since about his third joke, I laugh, but his act hasn’t changed. The reaction to his material has. His material is not offensive or risqué. He’s just not funny. So, why am I laughing?
For the answer, I return to the question of whether he had the audience in the beginning. Were they just dying to be entertained? He had a few self-deprecating jokes that hit home. He opened with a few jokes about being unattractive and overweight. He joked about how grateful he was that a woman decided to become the wife of an overweight, unattractive man. They laughed. Little by little, joke by joke, silence began to rear its ugly head, until it became obvious the poor man was baking under the spotlight. I was one of the few not laughing in the beginning. Now I’m the only one who is. Various members of the audience began twisting around in their seats to see who was laughing.
I laughed because he was sweating. I laughed because he was trying so hard that he was trying too hard. I laughed because he was drowning, and he was not bombing on purpose. I laughed, because I realized I knew we were watching a man’s dreams come crashing down around him. I laughed because one of his best days ever turned into his worst nightmare. It was fascinating to watch. It was captivating.
“What’s the opposite of empathy and sympathy?” I asked a friend, in a discussion involving this peculiar morbid curiosity we have for enjoying other people’s pain. When he didn’t answer straight away, I added, “Sociopathic, psychopathic? Is it narcissism? Whatever it is, I have it.”
“It’s evil!” he said. “We’re not evil people, but we have a little spot of evil in our hearts. You know how people say they have a soft spot in their hearts for something particular about a person, place, or thing? We have a hard spot in our hearts.”
That was such an insightful comment that I couldn’t help but think he put a lot of thought into it, but was it true? Kind-hearted, sympathetic and empathetic men do not enjoy watching another man squirm in pain. I don’t rubberneck on the interstate, hoping to see a severed leg laying out on the interstate, and I don’t enjoy seeing other people cry, but I love watching the worst part of an otherwise healthy, normal man’s worst day. What’s wrong with me? Have I been conditioned by the comedians who almost appear to enjoy bombing? Andy Kaufman, David Letterman, and Norm MacDonald turned bombing into an art form. They almost appeared to get off on it. MacDonald said he didn’t care if an audience laughed at a joke or not. That was his charm. Chris Elliott personalized the Kaufman/Letterman element and created a career based on a level of self-deprecation and debasement that would’ve embarrassed most people. Did they plant seeds in my brain that anything embarrassing, uncomfortable, or cringeworthy is some form of lowbrow entertainment that is so low that it’s considered high art? I didn’t get lowbrow entertainment, until I did. It clicked. It’s schtick. Once I got it, I couldn’t wait to proclaim to the world that I got it. I understood it to the point that I considered it hilarious to watch another man squirm under the bright spotlight of a small city’s comedy club.
It’s not schtick for this man however. He worked hard on this material. We can feel it in his transitions. We can hear him nix some material, lose his place, and worry that he frontloaded all of his best material. We can hear him worry about his performance while he’s talking. He’s lost faith in himself, his material, and his ability to turn this around. I laugh harder. I have the giggles. I can’t stop. People are staring. The group I came to the comedy club with are giving me looks. I compose myself, until I analyze the comedian’s face deeper. His pain is so obvious that I imagine this is what it might look like if I could see the expression of someone who just jumped off a building. I have the giggles again, but I’m controlling it better this time.
Mercifully, the comedian’s act ends. The crowd applauds politely, and the comedian surprises me by mouthing, “Thank you!” to me. I didn’t know it at the time, but my friends later tell me that he began directing his jokes at me toward the tail end of his act. He, presumably, thought I was the only audience member who got it. I felt bad, because I wasn’t laughing with him. I was laughing at him.
One excuse I could use to explain my behavior is that I find the unfunny hilarious. Perhaps I relate to this comedian, because I’ve been told that I have a decent pitch, and I know my beats, but my punchlines are so confusing that they’re not funny. Perhaps my laughter had something to do with the idea that I don’t enjoy traditional humor. I’ve watched too many comedies, sitcoms, and radio shows to appreciate what we call a traditional humor.
I prefer something I call accidental humor. It’s not an accident, but the reader thinks it is. They might think I’m not in on the joke. “I don’t know if you intended for this line, right here, to be funny, but it is.” I’ve received so many of these critiques that I now know how to properly execute it. I’m not arguing that my jokes are funny and other people simply don’t get it. I’m saying I write what I write them to entertain me, and nothing entertains me more than a contextual joke that could be misinterpreted as a misunderstanding between the author and the reader. This contextual humor could be misinterpreted as to make the “I” character look bad. That’s Letterman. That’s Chris Elliott. Every line preceding the line was intended to give that character a level of omniscience and expertise, until that line. I intended for it to appear to be an apparent slip up. I call it accidental humor.
It’s all Letterman’s fault. He started it all for me.Seriously, he started it all for me. I loved watching the audience squirm uncomfortably, because they don’t know what to do, because I loved watching Letterman do it to them. He turned squirming into an art form. Letterman left the audience wondering how they could help him, and he answered by saying there’s no help for me. It made me so uncomfortable it was almost painful and hilarious to watch. It’s the joy of witnessing other people’s pain (OPP), and it’s David Letterman’s fault. I’d love to say that I believe that. I’d love to say that watching him on NBC for all those years had such a profound effect on me that I’m now conditioned to find OPP hilarious. How many years did he cringe with us in uncomfortable pain? I’d love to say it’s all his fault, but my enjoyment of OPP predates him. When I saw some kid fall on the playground, some deep and dark part of me wanted to see the cavalcade of their expressions. I wanted to watch how their expressions change when they went from scrambling to avoid a fall to knowing there was nothing they could do about it. I wanted a snapshot of their face when they began to fear how much this was probably going to hurt. I wanted to see that progression, and I did a number of times. I also found their final expression of pain so delicious that I would quickly exit to the other side of the playground so they wouldn’t see me laughing, and I got caught more than once.
“How come when we get hurt, it’s so funny to you,” Mike Amick said, calling me out, “but when you get hurt, we’re supposed to take it serious?”
Is it evil to enjoy watching other people get hurt? Do we have a hard spot on our hearts for certain moments? We’re not evil people, but is there something wrong with us if we enjoy it when another person cries during an argument? Is there a hard spot on the heart of someone who enjoys watching another’s dreams come crashing down around them? The fact that a grade school child’s assessment stays with me to this day should suggest that I’m still struggling with it.
When we discuss such things, some of us exaggerate the levels of pain involved. The incidents we’re talking about here are skinned knees, the guy who walked into a pole and broke his glasses in half, and a comedian who wasn’t able to make strangers laugh. Most of us have never seen anyone get truly hurt, and if we did, we probably wouldn’t laugh. Yet, it is a little deranged and morbid to enjoy watching another experience minor pain, regardless if the person walks away laughing.
I’m a grown man now who manages to display kindness in the face of tragedy, compassion, and sympathy when other people get hurt. I obviously know all kinds of physical and emotional pain intimately now, and I empathize when anyone endure hardships and physical pain, but after I tend to their wounds and make sure their okay, I still rush to that dark corner of the room to laugh my tail off.
I know that conducting corporate meetings is not in the same league with standing before paying customers, but I got enough of a taste for what this comedian must’ve gone through on the stage that night to feel some empathy for what it must feel like to know that we don’t have what it takes to keep them awake during our presentation.
No matter how many excuses and qualifiers I present, I know I’ll pay a price for these morbid reactions I have to other people’s pain. I know all about karma, as I’ve had some experience with it, but I know there’s more to come. I know I’ll get mine. I know there will come a day when I struggle to breathe one more breath and someone sees the effort I’m making to live one more minute of one more day, and they’ll find that struggle hilarious. I know I’m not the only one with this strange, morbid curiosity, and I know I’ll probably yell something like, “What are you laughing at? I’m dying here!” in the heat of the moment. After my emotional hysteria subsides, and I don’t have the strength to fight death anymore, I’ll either acknowledge that I deserved it after laughing at so many others during the worst days of their life, or I’ll find the humor in it too.